My opinions on adoption loss, as well as my stance on family preservation are often said to be irrelevant. My opinion, the opinions of other mothers who lost children to adoption decades ago, are dismissed as not relevant because "adoption is different" now. That is a whole different post though. This post is about the loss experienced by "new" mothers of adoption loss being no different than those of us who have lived with it for decades. It is painful, it is agonizing. How anyone can dismiss the grief of another is beyond me.
Here are the words of a mother who lost her child to adoption just over two years ago.
I feel so alone now,
The days pass by so slowly.
I feel I have been left behind,
Forgotten and pushed to the back of your mind,
The gift I gave you,
Has taken a huge toll
On my mind, body, spirit, and soul.
I alone paid the price,
Made the ultimate sacrifice.
And you were the only ones with something to gain,
I'm the one left with the pain.
The days drag on,
Until each one combines into the next one.
And I feel so alone,
I feel so alone...