I sometimes worry that people reading my blog will think that I write about adoption only out of regret or anger. When I write about the problems in adoption I am not necessarily speaking about my actual adoption experience, I am speaking of the institution of adoption. I am not speaking against Christopher, nor his parents, nor am I wishing to deny him any part of the life he lives. I am speaking out against the institution of adoption.
Here is what I am trying to say, but Amanda says it so much better!
Adoption is an institution, not a person. As an institution, it impacts just about every vulnerable population in this world that one could imagine. Because of this, we need to be critical of it. We need to expose its flaws, discuss its triumphs, and be realistic about its global impact. We cannot mistake these things for being egregious assaults against parents who have adopted, surrendering parents, or other adoptees themselves. In truth, there is nothing "anti-adoption" or "anti-adoptive parent" about wanting an adoption that works well, works better, and works more effectively to serve those who are connected to it.
Thanks for putting words to my thoughts again Amanda!
P.S. If you don't already read Amanda's blog, you should!