tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post1149105473603155205..comments2023-09-18T06:33:39.097-05:00Comments on Finding Christopher, Finding Myself: I Hate This!Susiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-6363182618021597102011-05-26T14:46:45.169-05:002011-05-26T14:46:45.169-05:00What Linda said :-)What Linda said :-)The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-67202373286296291722011-05-24T13:49:38.022-05:002011-05-24T13:49:38.022-05:00(((SUSIE))) Been there, done that, know that it su...(((SUSIE))) Been there, done that, know that it sucks. I agree that you should feel free to call or email your son to let him know you're thinking of him. I wouldn't ask if something's wrong, just that you're there if he ever wants to talk. Because there's nothing wrong, and you don't want him to get defensive. Mostly, be gentle with yourself, keep sharing, venting, whatever you need. Know that there are many of us in your same boat...Denisehttp://write-o-holic.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-36832477103377185522011-05-24T11:56:53.274-05:002011-05-24T11:56:53.274-05:00I agree with Linda. Email him or call him, just to...I agree with Linda. Email him or call him, just to say hi. Just to let him know you are there and thinking of him.<br /><br />I am so sorry you are going through this. I know it sucks. A few months after my oldest son and I reunited, he backed away and I didn't see him or hear from him for almost a year. The most I could do during that time, and the only way I knew to get a hold of him was to send messages through his myspace account. And so every few weeks, I sent him something that just said hi and I'm thinking of you and I'm here if you ever need me. <br /><br />Sometimes, it's hard to know what is happening or what they are thinking. But I firmly believe in letting them know we are there and we are thinking of them.<br /><br />And in between that time, lean on others and don't be afraid to reach out for support. I'm here for you if you need me.<br /><br />Love ya!Cassihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00274531213087340905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-55070640406605054462011-05-23T23:16:46.288-05:002011-05-23T23:16:46.288-05:00Im sorry you are going through this. I hate that w...Im sorry you are going through this. I hate that we always have these self doubts, this second guessing thing. I was just talking about this same thing with an adoptee friend of mine earlier today. Email him, or call him. You are not sounding pathetic, Susie. You are just sounding like a Mother.Real Daughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361127479878590761noreply@blogger.com