tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post2443337809617935562..comments2023-09-18T06:33:39.097-05:00Comments on Finding Christopher, Finding Myself: Smashing Fun House MirrorsSusiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-64804498203432899292011-07-26T16:10:26.541-05:002011-07-26T16:10:26.541-05:00Sharon ~ I chose adoption in that nobody told me I...Sharon ~ I chose adoption in that nobody told me I had to give my son up for adoption, but at the same time I didn't choose adoption in that there was no other choice for me. I refused to raise my son in the life I was living at the time. It was 1979, adoption was expected when a teen became pregnant, and there was nobody looking out for the best interest of a 15 year old living in a home of hate. The "counselors" knew that the only reason I was choosing adoption was because I didn't want my child to suffer the life I was living. Unless someone would have offered me a better place to live and be able to raise my child while finishing school, I had no other options in order to not "choose" adoption. So the answers are both yes and no at the same time. I would have given anything to raise my son, but I was a 15 year old ~ alone ~ with no one looking out for my best interest or offering options to adoption.Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-33516359277467788392011-07-26T13:52:25.924-05:002011-07-26T13:52:25.924-05:00Susie - you have said a lot of what i think too, w...Susie - you have said a lot of what i think too, when reading other adoptees blogs. However, I wonder you mention in your post that you 'gave him away', did you really do that? Or were you like me, and so many other mothers coersed into doing so? You also mention that you 'chose' adoption for you son, is that so? I hope you don't mind my asking but I am informed by adoptees who blog quite a lot and whom I am reading in order to better understand what they went through and not just what i went through, that they all feel that we chose to give them away. That is not the truth as far as I am concerned and I know many other mothers who would say the same thing. So that's why I ask these two questions.Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10883670095984719238noreply@blogger.com