tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post8346632552016716138..comments2023-09-18T06:33:39.097-05:00Comments on Finding Christopher, Finding Myself: Limbo? Acceptance? Or Something Else?Susiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-76036233349263962872011-12-15T22:17:08.082-06:002011-12-15T22:17:08.082-06:00(((Susie))) I think you might be reaching the othe...(((Susie))) I think you might be reaching the other side of limbo. You sound secure in what is (if that's even possible, but I think so). I applaud that your fear of losing Christopher is gone. He may not be fully in your life, but as you said, knowing that he is alive and well is something, after all those years of not knowing. I'm glad that you aren't worrying about what to send or when, and are instead following your heart, expressing yourself instead of hesitating. I can fully appreciate that you've reached the point where you aren't obsessed 24/7. I imagine that mothers who raised their children have to get there too, especially once their kids leave the "nest." It's a good place to have arrived at. Normal, I'm thinking, as if anything surrounding adoption and reunion can ever be "normal." Try not to be unsettled by this. I think that rather than burying your emotions re: Christopher (again, as you wrote), you might actually be finding peace with the situation.<br /><br />Your post makes perfect sense to me. Thank you for sharing. XOAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-28148032423006356092011-12-15T16:16:05.879-06:002011-12-15T16:16:05.879-06:00This makes much more sense than you realize! I'...This makes much more sense than you realize! I've also been in limbo for months, probably almost a year. I go back and forth between thinking I'm losing her again to having some contact, just taking a deep breath and knowing it's ok. Reunion is just plain hard sometimes but we get through it and we love our kids. ((((hugs to you)))Carlynne Hershberger, CPSAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01365785230628216814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-91406507387737045492011-12-15T10:12:31.835-06:002011-12-15T10:12:31.835-06:00I could have written this myself, it is so similar...I could have written this myself, it is so similar to where I am at in my reunion. And I think it is a good place to be - much better than the constant worrying, obsessing, analyzing. I'm feeling much better and it sounds like you are, too.maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07067284504038707207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-39113024062290284622011-12-15T01:26:25.777-06:002011-12-15T01:26:25.777-06:00I totally get this. I think you are actually beha...I totally get this. I think you are actually behaving like a normal mother would. Think about it, if you feel like talking to your other children, or just want to send a message that you're thinking about them, you just go ahead and do it. It's natural, you don't have to over think every little move with them. You are experiencing that now with Christopher. For the first time in how long, you are not living/breathing him 24/7. That's normal. That's good, that's healthy. Okay, there might be a little self protection thrown in there as well, it's how we roll after all, but enjoy the peace of trusting yourself and your instincts. It'll all be fine.Lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16349114111710527622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-91897700116631194802011-12-14T18:30:20.333-06:002011-12-14T18:30:20.333-06:00You are not crazy. What you write makes sense to ...You are not crazy. What you write makes sense to a mother in reunion. I am sending a big hug and wishing you some peace. Keep loving.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com