tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.comments2023-09-18T06:33:39.097-05:00Finding Christopher, Finding MyselfSusiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comBlogger690125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-32157189068037611402021-01-13T06:34:13.292-06:002021-01-13T06:34:13.292-06:00I’m so very happy for you! My daughter connected w...I’m so very happy for you! My daughter connected with me this year, March 2020. I have met her once and have not met her three children yet. It’s been a reunion stressed by COVID virus. I’m trying to write a memoir of this, so maybe some day I will have a my story to share. She’s very scared and is hard to get to know , though she seems open and willing. Her adoptive parents are not very happy about her finding me, which has her feeling guilty I think. We are so obviously related though... she looks like a younger version of me a lot. It’s the first thing people notice. I could never have any more children and I have always wanted to be reunited. When I tried to find her 20 years ago, she was not ready. It’s been 50 years of waiting for us. I really want this and pray for a connection that will last. Any advice is welcome!My Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06849101740673595701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-85039577918656227062021-01-13T06:33:53.473-06:002021-01-13T06:33:53.473-06:00I’m so very happy for you! My daughter connected w...I’m so very happy for you! My daughter connected with me this year, March 2020. I have met her once and have not met her three children yet. It’s been a reunion stressed by COVID virus. I’m trying to write a memoir of this, so maybe some day I will have a my story to share. She’s very scared and is hard to get to know , though she seems open and willing. Her adoptive parents are not very happy about her finding me, which has her feeling guilty I think. We are so obviously related though... she looks like a younger version of me a lot. It’s the first thing people notice. I could never have any more children and I have always wanted to be reunited. When I tried to find her 20 years ago, she was not ready. It’s been 50 years of waiting for us. I really want this and pray for a connection that will last. Any advice is welcome!My Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06849101740673595701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-8439008962113065582020-12-04T06:33:04.973-06:002020-12-04T06:33:04.973-06:00I've often said that she hurt us (apars) at ou...I've often said that she hurt us (apars) at our most vulnerable... our natural desire to be parents.Not Afraid - Jill Hopsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06100136697643581927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-5101080101018287182020-11-09T09:45:09.849-06:002020-11-09T09:45:09.849-06:00Awesome article! I want people to know just how g...Awesome article! I want people to know just how good this information is in your article. It’s interesting, compelling content. Your views are much like my own concerning this subject. <a href="www.key2.life" rel="nofollow">electrostatic disinfection services</a><br />M. Tahahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12045558659892762964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-5612029250476649752017-10-16T18:53:47.466-05:002017-10-16T18:53:47.466-05:00Pure joy!Pure joy!Cindynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-43477599414337599462017-10-15T00:03:39.805-05:002017-10-15T00:03:39.805-05:00That's wonderful!That's wonderful! Autumnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02036100049294900917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-10496851037089807752017-08-31T17:19:43.060-05:002017-08-31T17:19:43.060-05:00Thank you for opening your heart and mind to the a...Thank you for opening your heart and mind to the adoptee voice! Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-60434701982883057152017-08-11T06:05:46.110-05:002017-08-11T06:05:46.110-05:00adoptive parent here - yes to all of this - clearl...adoptive parent here - yes to all of this - clearly, lovingly, and boldly encapsulates what i've heard time and time again and need to keep hearing from adoptees i've been reading/following online (hope to have some in person adoptee friends as well!). i'm so thankful for the internet and all the resources available to me to learn from adoptees' perspectives. praying for other adoptive parents I know to listen well and for my own son's healing as he grows up and processes his losses and wounds.Mary Hoythttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10424154837677687342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-27864204776341276502017-02-28T20:31:57.496-06:002017-02-28T20:31:57.496-06:00Quần áo bảo hộ lao động,
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It's like a millionaire telling someone who is poor they don't have a right to be wealthy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-82446887181167750702016-08-24T08:37:50.929-05:002016-08-24T08:37:50.929-05:00Would this have been as tragic if it was just a 39...Would this have been as tragic if it was just a 39 year old married man with no children? I tend to think it wouldn't be because people without children are seen as less valuable than those with children.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-69478107273079547062016-08-24T07:31:27.673-05:002016-08-24T07:31:27.673-05:00So what does the author believe themselves? Do th...So what does the author believe themselves? Do they believe both are what God meant to happen?<br /><br />I understand their point but what do they truly believe themselves?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-89533399507447394032016-08-24T07:23:49.314-05:002016-08-24T07:23:49.314-05:00Unless you advocate to eliminate all types of adop...Unless you advocate to eliminate all types of adoption and replace it with Guardianship you are not anti adoption. You are Pro Adoption Reform.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-58529469500081938412016-08-24T07:17:53.211-05:002016-08-24T07:17:53.211-05:00What are your feelings on Guardianship as an alter...What are your feelings on Guardianship as an alternative to adoption? Do you feel Guardianship should replace adoption where children in Foster Care are just given a provider until they turn 18 or do you still think it's needed that a child be adopted into a family?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-8957091420866625922016-08-24T07:14:35.434-05:002016-08-24T07:14:35.434-05:00You make it all sound so easy. If all that is so ...You make it all sound so easy. If all that is so wonderful why haven't you done any of it and passed on giving birth to additional children?<br /><br />Along the lines of "adopting" a young mother who has no family, I think you and others who advocate all of this should adopt older couples who weren't able to have children so they have families in their old age to be there for them. After all infertile couples aren't just here to be used and discarded when they are no longer of use to those with children. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-4217852153628755142016-08-24T06:47:58.417-05:002016-08-24T06:47:58.417-05:00It goes beyond breaking the stigma of infertility....It goes beyond breaking the stigma of infertility. It's getting rid of the status symbol that parenthood has become. It's getting rid of the idea that you don't know what love is until you become a parent. Recognizing that families don't have to include children. Recognizing the contributions that people without children make.<br /><br />All things you and others with children could never understand.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-19184588444384542802016-08-23T19:40:58.142-05:002016-08-23T19:40:58.142-05:00I believe what the author meant with this sentence...I believe what the author meant with this sentence was to prove how ridiculous it is when people say that God sent their child to them via adoption. If it's God's will that you adopt, then isn't it God's will that you are infertile so that you have to adopt? Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-74433571378031283622016-08-23T19:28:29.213-05:002016-08-23T19:28:29.213-05:00Firstly, you should come to terms with being infer...Firstly, you should come to terms with being infertile. Don't look for adoption or anything else to take that pain away. Don't feed the corrupt adoption industry. If you want to adopt, look into a child who truly has no family. One whose parents have already had their parental rights taken away. Become a mentor to a child through the many programs out there. "Adopt" a young mother who has no family to give her support, love or guidance on how to be a wonderful mother. There are many ways to "mother", many ways to give and share your love with a child and make a life changing difference in their life. I truly wish you luck in finding a way mother.Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-19013078016306558172016-08-23T19:09:20.540-05:002016-08-23T19:09:20.540-05:00Adopting a child doesn't make you any less inf...Adopting a child doesn't make you any less infertile though. It makes you an adoptive mother of a child whose natural mother is also one viewed as "less than". Is making another woman feel "less than" justifiable when it helps alleviate your own feeling of "less than"? Rather, lets break the stigma of infertility. Lets pour the money into researching and lowering the instances of infertility.Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-17710050988552550952016-08-23T14:29:33.481-05:002016-08-23T14:29:33.481-05:00God intends for you to be infertile so that you wo...God intends for you to be infertile so that you would not have a child?<br /><br />Wow and this is why you all deserve the pain you get. You are no different than the APs you despise.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-48875276536048342342016-08-23T14:17:34.535-05:002016-08-23T14:17:34.535-05:00What would you suggest someone who is infertile sh...What would you suggest someone who is infertile should do? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-63500262887916702732016-08-23T13:54:12.475-05:002016-08-23T13:54:12.475-05:00Because infertile women are viewed as less than in...Because infertile women are viewed as less than in our society.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-73887486480592579202016-04-13T00:04:02.722-05:002016-04-13T00:04:02.722-05:00Susie, I'm SO glad you did the AAC presentatio...Susie, I'm SO glad you did the AAC presentation! You are so right about the "I should haves." The adoption "professionals" did you wrong, as they did all of us. They left us to deal with our grief and shame. Thank you for writing this post!Denisehttp://secondchancemother.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-52547069584724201322016-04-12T09:31:46.452-05:002016-04-12T09:31:46.452-05:00It is wonderful to be with people who get it. It is wonderful to be with people who get it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6953239816472596984.post-65225622464663113802016-03-18T12:36:58.476-05:002016-03-18T12:36:58.476-05:00Wow, Susie, I thought I might be the only mother w...Wow, Susie, I thought I might be the only mother who has been unable to cry (about ANYTHING!) since losing my son to adoption. Definitely bring that up as collateral damage at the conference.Denisehttp://secondchancemother.comnoreply@blogger.com