Friday, October 7, 2011

"Birthmothers That Scam Innocent People" ...Really?!?

I ran across a blog post titled "Birthmothers That Scam Innocent People".  It infuriates me for so many reasons. Not the least of which includes her use of the term birthmother and then using it for an expectant mother who hasn't even given birth yet.  Then there is the spelling and grammar issue ~ I wanted so badly to correct all the mistakes in the quotes below! 

After deciding to write about this, I wanted to find out more about the blogger.  Turns out she is the owner and founder of Unique Adoptions.  She calls herself an "Adoption Specialist". 

Unique Adoptions is an "adoption facilitating service" which is not subject to licensing by the State of California.  This is according to the information page on their website.

Unique Adoptions also has a "Birthmother Relocation Program"!  Wonder if they relocate mothers to Utah??

If you aren't too sick when you are done with reading this, you can find more of this blogger/specialist/founder/owner's writing here.  Some of the post titles?   "Daily Interaction With Birthmothers" and "How To Adopt In 6 Months". 

From the blog post:
So In order to get her and her two daughters safe, I purchased $519.00 woth of Greyhound tickets after I wired her $300.00 for gas and food to use her own vechile to drive to CA. But then she said it as stolen by the X-boyfriend RED FLAG! I should of stopeed there. But NO! I felt so bad for her.
Felt bad for her?  Really...


So I took her to the Ultrasound office to get a better date Idea of her pregnancy and possible determine gender .. But to my SUPRISE the tech said Oh look you are 7 weeks and 1 day pregnant!!!!! I almost passed out. Now what was I goning to do with this women and her children that had just arrived and was barley pregnant. NO family wants to get involved with a women that is not through her first Trimester.
So instead of saying SORRY, I cant help you I told her not to worry we would just keep plugging along and that I am sure once she was further along a family would love to parent this baby. So for 6 weeks I supported her and her to daughters , I bought her grocerys, Clothing, Blankets, Pillows, I let her borrow my DVD Player I had to pay to keep her in a hotel. I could of just said I am sorry I cannot do this but I did not have the HEart to place them on the streets, so I continued to Hemerage Money from my own savings account to the tune of $4300.00 dollars. 
Really...  She did this out of the kindness of her heart?  Or out of the expectation of the tens of thousands of dollars she could get from an adoptive couple?


she was going to abort the baby if we could not have a family in place. I tried to reasure her that their would be a family and to have faith..

So maybe she was not in it for the infant, maybe she was in it just to "save a baby from abortion"? Uggghhhh, I'm not even going to go there...



YOu know you can work with these women and think they are all so nice and caring, Bend over backwards to help them and then you still get screwed in the long run.

These women??!?  But was she bending over backwards to help them?  Or to help herself to their unborn child??


So all of you that spokme to us about Angela Pynes she is gone, I am out my savings account and who knows what the out come of this inocent child will be. Oh and did I forget to mention that she got a SAINT Bernanrd puppy to hide in the Hotel, The Kids needed something to play with!! Jeepers it never ends with these women.
Again, "these women".  There you go everyone ~ that is what adoption "counselors" think about the pregnant mothers considering adoption.  They are less than ~ they are only "these women".  This blogger isn't only talking about the woman who scammed her, she is talking about all expectant women she deals with.  She hasn't said "this woman", she has said (more than once) "these women". 


So as you can see it is not only adoptiveparents that get taken for a ride and used, But it is all adoption professionals, I am sure so many of us have storys of hugh financial losses because we choose to take a women under our wing and try to help her but in then end, We were just another tool toget what they wanted for a very short period of time. I am just glad that is was me who suffered the loss and not one of my many adoptive parents that were thinking of her as a potential birthmother..;.
Screw me once Shame on Me but Screw me TWICE?????????????????
All adoption professionals?  She's pretty important to refer to her being scammed as something experienced by all "adoption professionals".  

In the end, "we were just another tool to get what they wanted"?  Oh, is this kind of like the financial and other methods of coercion used as tools to get what they want? A newborn infant to supply their demand?  By exploiting a mother facing a crisis or unexpected pregnancy?? 

But she's just glad that it was her that suffered the loss ~ not the many adoptive parents.  Because you know ~ adoption is all about the adoptive parents, not the infant. 
 
Yes ~  Shame. On. You.  Here is my response, which I am sure will not be published:

You were not scammed by a birthmother.  You were scammed by a pregnant woman using your deep desire to obtain a newborn in order to exploit you.  You were scammed because of your greed for her unborn child.  You did not bend over backwards to help this mother out of the kindness of your heart.  You bent over backwards because you thought you were going to get her baby.  A baby you needed to help supply the demand your agency has for newborn infants.  A baby who would have earned tens of thousands of dollars for your agency. 

Shame on you and your agency for preying on women in crisis.  Shame on you and your agency for targeting women facing an unexpected pregnancy and feeling that if you take care of them for a few months they owe you their flesh and blood.  Even if this mother had been sincere in considering adoption, she had every right to change her mind at any time before or after the child was born.  Shame on you if you would penalize a mother for wanting to preserve her family in the end.  




Susie

13 comments:

  1. Oh man, reading that made me feel sick. There was this lovely bit from an earlier entry, "I am so thrilled that finally someone is trying to expose these women , I think their should be severe consequences for the women that prey on adoptive parents emotions." Yet there are never consequences when "adoption professionals" prey on pregnant women. Ugh.

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  2. *shudder* I keep reading, in their faq's and stuff. Birthmothers are their top priority! Right. Um, no, babies they can get from pregnant women, that's their priority. Barf! Re: open adoption, "These personal arrangements are generally not legally enforceable. Your adoption attorney and/or adoption agency should advise you concerning this aspect of your adoption planning. There are, however, many birth mothers that prefer traditional closed adoptions, or who will consider receiving limited identifying information about the adoptive family, and agree to limited or no continuing communication after the adoption." Awful.

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  3. I don't know whether to laugh or cry! I can't even get through the first few sentences. You'd think a baby broker would at least have spell check. I don't feel bad for anyone who loses money trying to buy a child. No one. It's instant karma. But yeah...this is just brimming with stereotypes.

    Signed,
    one of THOSE adoptees ;)
    (who has never been "barley pregnant"

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  4. I blogged about a similar topic once. Its interesting how you only hear about the scams natural mothers or fathers participate in, not the ones adoption agencies, or strangers on the internet do.

    I was scammed by a woman who claimed to be my daughter. I have a friend who experienced same - TWICE.

    Scam I Am

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  5. i am the so called birth mother this lady is talking about. But for some reason my post will not post. hmmmm I wonder why. Thanks for the support.

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  6. i am the person patrice hill is talking about. She is lying. I am posting what really happened, and my posts are not going thru..

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  7. im going to try again. first off all i want to say to the five families she matched me with in a time frame of 1 month. im sorry i did not back out, she lied and told me that you coulnt afford the budget. i only could contact 3 of 5 of the families. she took you 5500.00 and lied to you. that is how she went on vacation for 15 days with her partner pat that works for her. she scammed 5 people out of 5500.00 She was a horrible person to be at her mercy. she did spend grocery money(200.00) over the course of 6 weeks. and my stay but she was selling my baby illegally. which now i can prove. if u have any questions email me angela_rsls@yahoo.com I will show you proof. She has been doing this(scamming innocent people) for a long time and she is going to have a rude awakening when she comes back from her vacation, ,my lawyer is going to serve her papers for putting my name out there and putting me and my children in danger of an abusive ex husband and all the fake stuff she posted. You will get what's coming to you Patrice Hill

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  8. Thank you to the people who came to my defence. And you think her spelling is bad here you should read 90% of the text messages she sent me. ya, real bad. I hope to expose her to other pregnant mothers out there. She was a very mean lady. not professional. Did she say about the medicine A stranger had tp buy for me because she coulnt afford it. And the half eaten groceries she would bring to my hotel room. I never went to buy food for myself, she would bring me expired food and condiments from her house and the fact that she contacted my family afterwards and told them i was pregnant and going to give for adoption, when she told me it was confidential. And my abusive exhusband how has found us after 6 years of being in hiding protective order after another. She put me and my family in danger. BEWARE of PATRICE HILL UNIQUE ADOPTIONS. She treated us like animals with no feelings. She is a monster

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  9. "YOu know you can work with these women and think they are all so nice and caring..."

    Yeah, "those women" come in all forms, such as the creature who was the adoption facilitator in my son's private adoption (1984). She signed herself in as, "patient's friend" on my hospital records. It was a real puke-tastic moment when I got copies of my hospital records 28 years after the birth of my son and read that.

    Kudos on your reply to her, Susie.

    C

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  10. I can attest that Patrice Hill IS scamming adoptive parents. She finds pregnant mothers at their must vulnerable times, makes unbelievable promises to them, then quickly sells their situation to the unsuspecting adoptive parents, she lies, lies and lies, threatens everyone, and when it doesn't work out, which of course it never was going to, she blames the birthmother AND the adoptive parents. She keeps everyone's money (heartless), goes on vacation, and makes ridiculous and harmful posts on the Internet. Meanwhile the adoptive parents are devastated at losing their life savings in a Patrice Hill scam and the birthmother is left out in the cold, driven away by Patrice Hill herself. How does she still have a license? Her brother is an attorney and no one seems able to touch her. I hope the State of California gets wise to her and comes down hard. In my opinion, she needs to sit in jail and have a wake up call.

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  11. Hello, Although this blog post is almost 4 years old, I would be interested to know what the web address is to Patrice's blog and talking to anyone who has had any dealings with her, if possible. Please email me at musingsofabirthmom@gmail.com if you'd like to help with an upcoming expose piece I'd like to write as I see Patrice is still in the business of baby brokering.

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  12. astridbeemom ~ just saw this comment, sorry for the delay. Here is the link to the blog:
    http://www.uniqueadoptions.com/blog

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  13. gf.me/u/f65n8
    at it again...

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