If you are the person who found my blog by google-ing "finding a young mother who is considering adoption", I hope you stayed/will stay to read a little. Look over on the right side of this blog, go down a little bit. You will find my blog list. When you are done here, go do some reading on those blogs also. Learn about adoption from the other sides. The ones who live with the loss of adoption ~ the mothers (and fathers) and the ones adopted.
I don't know why you are looking for a young mom who is considering adoption. Do you think that young mom = bad mom? Do you think that you will be "saving" a baby? Do you simply want to be a mom? Infant adoption isn't all you think it is. It isn't at all what it's supposed to be.
Adoption should be about providing a home for a baby/child who doesn't have a family to go home to. The infants that are taken for adoption usually have mothers and fathers who actually do want to raise their children. However, for one reason or five these parents have been made to feel that they aren't good enough. They have been convinced that if they truly love this infant, they will want to offer a better life than they have.
The parents-to-be may have gone to simply seek advice after they unexpectedly found themselves to be pregnant. They didn't go in with the thought or expectation of giving the child up for adoption. They were simply looking for advice, wanting to have someone to talk to about this life-changing event in their lives. They were in need of help finding resources and services to help them with medical care, maybe for some parenting lessons and advice.
Unfortunately, most crisis pregnancy center and adoption agency employees, social workers, high school/college nurses and counselors, as well as many doctors and nurses are not trained to give parenting help or advice. Most of them have instead gone through a program called "Infant Adoption Awareness Training".
This "training" was created with one goal ~ to increase the number of parents who will "choose" to give their newborn infants up for adoption. This "training" is coercion at it's best. If you do not believe that coercion still exists today, you are wrong. Millions of dollars have been spent in research to "convince" mothers that adoption is the "right choice". You can learn about this training yourself. You can make your own decision as to if coercion is still used today. Here is a great article on this training. Don't skip the comments to this post, you can see more proof of the coercion that abounds.
If you think that by adopting an infant, you are saving one from abortion ~ you are wrong. Most mothers who choose adoption never even considered abortion. Abortion is the choice to not be pregnant. Adoption is the choice to not be a parent. The two have nothing to do with each other.
If you think that young moms are unable to be great mothers, you are wrong.
If you believe that raising an adopted child is the same as raising one who was born to you, you are wrong.
If you think that I am a "bitter birthmom" who regrets her past, you are wrong.
If you think that adoption is only about the sunshine and rainbows, you are wrong.
I hope you are still reading.
Please go on to read some more here.
Please go read the post I talked about above: Adoption Truth: Coercion Not Choice, if you haven't already.
Please go to my blog list over there to the right and learn some more from other mothers of adoption loss, some adoptive mothers, and some adult adoptees.
You owe it not only to yourself ~ if you do go on to adopt you also owe it to your child and their other mother and father.