Every item listed on the "Birth Parent" list was spot on for me.
As Tao mentions in her post, these type of lists try to simplify things that are much too complicated to be put into bullet points. When I saw that this list was on a web page described as "A non-profit adoptive family support center, serving families, professionals and educators since 1998", I was sure that the list for us moms was going to be far from reality.
I'm still surprised at the honesty they have listed.
If only any mother considering adoption could read this page and KNOW the truth behind it!
My surprise ended as I browsed the rest of that website however...
Under the description of their support services for "Birth Parents/Families" was this gem:
C.A.S.E. provides support for the birth parent(s) in grieving the loss of their child upon relinquishment as well as other times in the future when memories of that child surfaces (i.e. having other children, telling a spouse/partner, dealing with self-esteem, and dealing with the larger issues of social and political opinion surrounding adoption.)
Because, you know, memories of our children lost to
adoption only surface in a few circumstances in the future.