The moment a child is born, the mother is also born.
She never existed before.
The woman existed, but the mother, never.
A mother is something absolutely new.
~Rajneesh
I wish that I had known this
when I was pregnant with Christopher.
I wish I had known that
a mother's love never dies.
That it wasn't possible to
"just get on with your life as if..."
I wish Christopher's (adoptive)
mom wanted to know me.
I wish it didn't hurt
that she doesn't.
I wish that every girl/woman
facing an unexpected pregnancy
could know the above quote
and believe in it's truth.
I wish that adoptive/prospective adoptive parents
understood that the child they adopt does indeed
have another mother.
I wish that mothers were
not considered replaceable.
I wish that the bond between a mother and her child
was cherished and preserved always.
Christopher's only mother.
You wrote the words that I have felt that I couldn't put so eloquently.
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Jeannette
Beautiful post. I have a question about your contact with your son. Do you feel that it's an equal balance of who is making the contact? Or do you write first more or him? With almost all my contact with my daughter, I feel that it is me who is making the move.
ReplyDeleteThis is a very nice post. - Just Me, the Adoptee
ReplyDeleteThank you for your honesty.
ReplyDelete@birthmothertalks ~ For the most part it is an equal balance. We email back and forth often, sometimes every day, sometimes it falls back to every 3 or 4 days. There was a several month period earlier this year where he was only emailing every couple of weeks, and that was only after I sent him an email with just a quick hi or quote or something.
ReplyDeleteSince we met each other last month, it has been very regular, several times a week, if not a day. For which I am VERY thankful in this month of thanks! (because it's Thanksgiving month, not Adoption Bewareness Month!)
@birthmothertalks ~ I'm sorry you are the one who is making contact. Hopefully some day soon that will change!
ReplyDeleteSusie thanks for not minding that I am asking you questions. We met our children so close to each other so I am curious. Don't feel the need to be sorry. She responds to me and seems very open to meeting again in the future.
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