Monday, November 12, 2012

Young? Single? Pregnant? Considering Adoption?

I came to the decision for adoption on my own.  Granted, it was still expected so it wasn't much of a decision.  Only a few "rebel" girls were beginning to buck the expected and raise their babies.

I hated my home life.  There was no way I was going to make an innocent baby grow up in that.

How much of that was normal teenage angst, I wonder?  The hating my family and home life?

What if I hadn't become such an independent soul at such a young age?  What if I had still depended on my parents for help and advice?  What if I had asked them what they thought about adoption?  What if I had asked them what they thought about the possibility of me raising my baby?

Would they have told me they would help me?  
Would they have told me I would be a great mom?

 If only I had asked...

Another reason I was convinced adoption was my only option ~ I wanted my baby to know the love of a dad, as I didn't have that and craved it badly.  Tom was long gone, I had no idea where or how to find him (1979 ~ pre-internet era).  Little did I know that I was going to meet the man who would become my husband just 7 months after losing Christopher to adoption.  Ron would have been a wonderful father to Christopher...

If only I had known.

How might my life have been different if I had just been able to reach out and ask for help?
To ask for advice?  
To think outside of fear?  
To think beyond the first months, the first year? 

Are you a young pregnant mom?  

Are you a single pregnant mom?  

Are you considering adoption for your unborn child?

Are you scared to ask your family and/or friends for support?
(By support I mean beyond financial support.) 

Chances are there will be many who would be willing to help you, 
to cheer you on to be the best mom you can be.

Chances are that this pregnancy may just be the best thing to happen to you ~ unexpected joy!

Asking for help and advice is NOT being weak.

It's being strong.

It's being a great mom.

It's doing whatever is necessary to be the best mom you can be to your child!!


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    1. Hickory Poscery ~ I wanted to just edit your comment and take out the link to the adoption agency website, but that wasn't possible so I had to delete it. I will not promote any adoption agency on this blog.

      If your 15 year old daughter truly is pregnant, I'm sorry that your family is facing this unexpected event. However ~ you are a big part of how this will effect your family into the future. My daughter also became a mom at a young age. I was also devastated when I found out she was pregnant ~ all the dreams I had for her future were gone. I had to gave a new dream for her. The great thing is she still had a great future ahead of her ~ her son is now 15 years old, she still went to college and now has a career that she loves. Becoming a mom doesn't mean your dreams can't come true, it just makes it a little harder. Sometimes having a child can be the perfect motivation to improve your grades and work harder at ensuring you have a bright future since your future now includes a precious child.

      I hope you are able to love your daughter and give her the encouragement she needs to become the best mom possible!