I have been working on this post for days. I have written and re-written and erased more paragraphs than I can remember.
Instead I'm just going to link to others who have written what I want to say, but can't find the words.
Cassie again speaks the words of my heart and soul when it comes to adoption loss. If you haven't already read her post "Here We Go Again", you should go read it. Be sure to read the comments too, they are as important as the post. They are proof of the deep seated lies in societies beliefs about adoption. They are proof that the adoption industry has been successful in their multi-million dollar research on how to turn a tragedy (a mother and child, a family, being separated) into something that is viewed as a "loving" action.
Lorraine has two posts about this. The comments on the first post lead to the second post.
Amanda writes about Birthmother's Day from an adoptees perspective.
My favorite post declares "Screw Birthmother's Day!". And Claud is doing that in high style ~ with all three of her children being together for the day.
I should leave this post on the high note of Claud's post. However, this last link shows the true pain of adoption loss and the belief by many that because a mother has given a child up for adoption she is no longer a mother. The adoption industry and this so-called day of celebration kills the heart and soul of many mothers. Those who believe that it takes more than biology to make a mother are responsible for this young woman's heartache. My heart breaks for Candace. I pray that she will one day be able to say that even though she is not parenting her beloved son, she is still one of his mothers. She is his first mother. Without her, he would not be.
To everyone living without a child because of adoption ~
You are a part of your child
Your child is a part of you
Your child is OF you
Happy Mother's Day
