But my other question is: How can a mother love her children all the same when one child has been kept and the other was given up? She doesn't know the relinquished child in the same way. :\
I needed a topic for today's post, so I will reply to that comment here.
I cannot explain the love I feel for ALL of my children. I think it would be impossible to do so. Every mother I know has loved their children from the moment they were born (and before). A mother does not need to "know" their child as a person before they grow to love them. A mother's love is immediate, is unconditional, is forever.
If a mother's child would die at birth, does the mother feel less love for that child than any others she has had/will have in the future?
I may not have raised Christopher, nor been able to show my love to him as a parent every day, but I felt love for him always. With all of my heart. And I will love him forever. No matter what.
I cannot explain a mother's love, but one of my favorite poems tries. (Emphasis mine)
A Mother's Love
A Mother's love is something
that no one can explain,
It is made of deep devotion
and of sacrifice and pain,
It is endless and unselfish
and enduring come what may
For nothing can destroy it
or take that love away . . .
It is patient and forgiving
when all others are forsaking,
And it never fails or falters
even though the heart is breaking . . .
It believes beyond believing
when the world around condemns,
And it glows with all the beauty
of the rarest, brightest gems . . .
It is far beyond defining,
it defies all explanation,
And it still remains a secret
like the mysteries of creation . . .
A many splendoured miracle
man cannot understand
And another wondrous evidence
of God's tender guiding hand.
Helen Steiner Rice